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    • Panic

      I will work with my feelings of panic today. Rather than swing into emotional action by shutting the feeling down or by projecting my own panicky feeling onto someone else, I will first identify it as a feeling within me. When I project the feeling, I do not experience it. Then I do to another [...]

    • Being Open

      Today I feel open to whatever is going on, recognizing that it is the quickest way to process repressed material, the fastest way to grow and the most fun way to live my life and feel alive. In recovery I process
      years, even decades of material in a condensed time. There are moments when I feel [...]

    • A Full Human Being

      I am willing to pay the price of personal and spiritual growth. Confronting the situations both within and outside that frighten me is not easy-it can feel terrifying, sometimes almost life-threatening. But today, rather than bemoan my fate, I will reach deep down into myself and look for something good. I will be sustained not [...]

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  • Panic

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 10th, 2010

    I will work with my feelings of panic today. Rather than swing into emotional action by shutting the feeling down or by projecting my own panicky feeling onto someone else, I will first identify it as a feeling within me. When I project the feeling, I do not experience it. Then I do to another [...]

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    Being Open

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 9th, 2010

    Today I feel open to whatever is going on, recognizing that it is the quickest way to process repressed material, the fastest way to grow and the most fun way to live my life and feel alive. In recovery I process
    years, even decades of material in a condensed time. There are moments when I feel [...]

    read more »

    A Full Human Being

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 8th, 2010

    I am willing to pay the price of personal and spiritual growth. Confronting the situations both within and outside that frighten me is not easy-it can feel terrifying, sometimes almost life-threatening. But today, rather than bemoan my fate, I will reach deep down into myself and look for something good. I will be sustained not [...]

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    Releasing Shame

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 7th, 2010

    Today I will release the shame that has a hold on my heart. When I allow a sort of historical shame of who I am to engulf me, nothing in life seems sweet or good anymore. Embarrassment is over something I do; shame
    is over who I am. In dysfunctional homes we feel isolated in our [...]

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    Friendship

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 6th, 2010

    I will value the comfort of friendship and hold a true friend dear. Soul is expressed through human relationship; care of relationships is care of the soul. Relationships are what trigger my anxieties. Intimacy acts like a black light under which my emotional cracks show up. In a close friendship I have an opportunity to [...]

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    Minding My Own Business

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 5th, 2010

    Today I will mind my own business. Interfering in other people’s lives doesn’t help them or me. Sometimes I get fascinated by another person’s problems as a way of getting away from my own insides. Sometimes I am actually seduced or excited by trouble and crisis. This is an old pattern and can only get [...]

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    Accepting My Limitations

    By: Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Date: March 4th, 2010

    True connection with others also requires connection with self. When I look toward connection with others to fill my lonely emptiness, I never get what I want. I become a perfectionist and demanding because I see what the other is giving as crucial to my personal sense of wellness. Within me is a fullness from [...]

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