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      I will work with my feelings of panic today. Rather than swing into emotional action by shutting the feeling down or by projecting my own panicky feeling onto someone else, I will first identify it as a feeling within me. When I project the feeling, I do not experience it. Then I do to another [...]

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      Today I feel open to whatever is going on, recognizing that it is the quickest way to process repressed material, the fastest way to grow and the most fun way to live my life and feel alive. In recovery I process
      years, even decades of material in a condensed time. There are moments when I feel [...]

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      I am willing to pay the price of personal and spiritual growth. Confronting the situations both within and outside that frighten me is not easy-it can feel terrifying, sometimes almost life-threatening. But today, rather than bemoan my fate, I will reach deep down into myself and look for something good. I will be sustained not [...]

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    • Overview of Emotional Sobriety

    What are the Signs of Emotional Sobriety?

    • Well developed Skills of self regulation
    • Ability to regulate strong emotions
    • Ability to regulate mood
    • Ability to maintain a perspective on life circumstances
    • Ability to regulate potentially harmful substances or behaviors
    • Ability to live in the present
    • Ability to regulate activity levels
    • Ability to live with both social and intimate connection
    • Resilience, the ability to roll with the punches
    • Ability to regulate personal behavior

    What are Symptoms of a Lack of Emotional Sobriety?

    • Underdeveloped skills of self regulation
    • Inability to regulate strong feelings such as anger, rage, anxiety, sadness
    • Lack of ability to regulate mood
    • Lack of ability to regulate behavior
    • Not being able to put strong emotions into perspective
    • Lack of ability to regulate substances or self medicating behaviors
    • Inability to live in the present
    • Lack of ability to regulate activity level (chronically over or under active)
    • Inability to live comfortably in intimate relationships
    • Lack of resilience or the ability to roll with the punches

    What are the Solutions: How Can I Come Into Balance?

    • Learn the skills of mind, body and emotional self regulation
    • Resolve childhood wounds so they don’t undermine self regulation
    • Learn effective and healthy ways of self soothing and incorporate them into daily life
    • Learn effective ways to manage stress
    • Maintain a healthy body, get daily exercise, rest, proper nutrition
    • Process emotional ups and downs as they happen, consciously shift feeling states
    • Learn to use the thinking mind to regulate the feeling, limbic mind
    • Develop inner resources, quiet, meditation, spiritual pursuits
    • Develop outer resources, work, hobbies, social life, community