I am not an island onto myself. Isolating myself from those I am intimate with is impossible. All I accomplish through this self-imposed separation is the illusion of isolation. I share space with those who are close to me. Each of us knows what is going on, each of us feels the atmosphere of the other. I will be willing to know how I affect people today on both a verbal and, even more important, on a nonverbal level. I will take responsibility not only for what I say, but for who I am in the alive and vibrating feeling atmosphere around me. The atmosphere around me is alive and carries my silent message to all whom I encounter; it is what others I am in relationship with know and live with.

I own what I think and feel.

Now if you apply the wave-particle metaphor to human relationship and think that we are both particle, individuals in our own space and time and waves, things that can overlap and combine with others, then you have a basis for seeing how we could get “into