Today I recognize the futility of trying to change someone else’s behavior. If I postpone my own growth and happiness until such time when others close to me recognize what I am doing, approve of it and act as I wish they would, I might wait forever. If someone else could act better, they would act better. What they are doing is all they can do. If they
are behaving in unenlightened ways, it is because they are not able to do otherwise. They lack self-awareness. Their awareness will come to them in their own time. What I can do is change my behavior. If there is a dynamic that I do not like, I will do far more to alter it by clearing up my side. When I don’t engage in my part of a difficult interaction,
it transforms into something else.

I will change myself.

Growth is the only evidence of life.
John Henry Newman