Fearful as I can be of repeating painful history, it is important for me to understand that in a very fundamental way, it is impossible-the forces of nature are against it. In this alive world, billions of neurons are passing through each moment, altering the probabilities constantly. If I can release my self-defeating patterns, nature will do the rest. Dysfunctional patterns get passed on when I am in denial of my real self, when I can’t look at and be with who I really am. If I was hurt by a certain behavior from someone as a child, I need to feel that hurt and own it as my own; otherwise, I will constantly see the world as doing it to me. I will project my pain and continually re-create the experience. There is no need for me to do this if I am willing to feel all my feelings surrounding a particular situation. This is my best weapon against repeating dysfunctional patterns. This teeming universe can come in and fill the  vacuum created by my release and fill the space in me where an old wound used to be.

The world will help me to heal.

You could not step twice in the same river.
Heraclitus