Today I will not blackmail myself or others with my own neediness and I
will not let others blackmail me with theirs. In recovery I have learned
to identify my needs. Now in recovery I will learn that because I have
identified them does not necessarily mean that they will all be met.
Part of growing up is learning to tolerate my own neediness. Being
demanding about what I want will not necessarily work for me to obtain
it. This does not mean that I return to my old way of postponing my
needs for so long that I actually lose track of what they are. It only
means that I learn to take a mature and kind attitude toward them.
Neither over-reacting nor under-reacting, I will give myself time to sit
with my own being for a while to see what’s really going on there.

I can deal with my needs in healthy ways.

The art of life lies in a constant readjustment to our surroundings.
Kakuzo Okakura