I am capable of tolerating emotional pain and coming out the other end whole and in tact with more of me, and a deeper awareness and a connection with my authentic self. There is information waiting to be mined inside my pain, parts of me that are being held in silence that long to speak, places within me that want to be felt and understood. Though my sorrow may make me feel like I am falling apart , I know I will not. I trust in myself and a power greater than me to hold me through my pain. I will get through these feelings, I can survive them. The yearning inside of me for what I may have lost, or for what never got a chance to happen is natural and a part of the grief process. If I am willing to feel it, I will get past it, if I shut it down, minimize it or rewrite it into some cover up story, I am only hurting myself in the long run. I need to feel what I am forgiving if I’m going to forgive it; whether it’s myself I’m forgiving or another person.