I will observe myself in action the next time I find myself being excessively critical of others. Being critical of other people’s business comes from comparing myself to them; from a misguided attempt to justify my own position by invalidating theirs. That only overwhelms me and makes me unable to accomplish what suits my own life and feels right to me. When I compare, I tend to compare my aspirations with results accomplished by others; I compare my insides with their outsides.

What I have to offer is unique. All I need for a soul growth experience is the experience of self-expansion. It is being fully engaged in an activity that causes growth for me. It is not in finding the perfect activity, but the perfect relationship with an activity that will allow me to balance my inner and outer worlds, to express myself and to take in what is around me.

I look for the real motivation beneath criticism.

The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.
John Milton