I will take a different view of a person today. When I resent people, I  tend to see only their faults. I am seeing what it is that annoys me about them and, in a sense, withholding my good opinion. An attitude like this can doom an encounter with them to failure. What I say and see on the nonverbal level through my attitude, body language and the feeling I put into the atmosphere is very powerful. When I see people in this black and white fashion, I am not seeing them.

I will see another person’s innocence.

It is suggested that we begin the encounter with an entirely different kind of mind set. We resolve beforehand that we will scan the other person for signs of love, gentleness and peace, and that the only information we will retain in our mind is that which will permit us to continue looking upon this person kindly. In other words, we seek only their innocence, not their guilt. We look at them with our heart, not with our preconceived notions. This approach is one we all can use in our daily lives . . . whether at work or in our more intimate relationships.
Gerald G. Jampoksky, M.D.